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Client story: Working less, earning more, and having more fun

 

I wanted to share with you a recent experience I had with one of my clients around the theme of “working less, earning more, while having a greater impact and more fun.”

Although my client is a successful business owner and doing well financially, she has increasingly felt like life has been too serious.

She wants to start having more fun and creating an experience outside of just “working” all the time.

Despite loving what she does, she has been feeling like her old way of “having” to work and to be “doing doing doing” all the time was no longer in alignment.

Instead, it has the opposite effects and has been starting to negatively impact her business, energy, inspiration, and happiness.

And on top of that, she wasn’t having fun!

This is something my client came to me for help with as she has been actively working towards “working less, earning more, while having a greater impact and more fun,” but has been getting opposite results.

Remember, one clue that you have a subconscious block holding you back is,

“You know what you want to be doing, and you are doing it, but you are getting opposite results.”

Using the Heart Freedom Method, a mind-body technique created by Dr. Lise Janelle, I was able to help her identify and release the source of her subconscious block.

Through the process, this is what we discovered…

In her late 20’s, she became infatuated with the 6-figure salary she was earning at her corporate job.

This amount of money was more than she had ever earned in the past, and she began attaching her worth with the amount she was making.

Rather than looking at the job as a whole, she was only looking at one side, the finances.

By only looking at how much she was making, she was putting greater importance on her salary and minimizing herself and the other areas of her life. It was like she became blind to her role’s downsides and not aware of how much this had been ruling her life.

For example, if she would have been honest with herself back then and looked at both sides of her job, she would have seen that other than the money, she liked little about her role and found it very unfulfilling, uninspiring and out of alignment with her purpose.

Rather than looking for something more fulfilling, she felt stuck there because of the money.

Often when someone’s infatuated with something or someone, it’s when they feel low self-worth or low self-esteem in another area of their life, and they’re looking for something outside of themselves to build them up.

So how is this still keeping her stuck?

Now, six years later, as she’s looking to work less while having more fun, it’s like a button is being pushed, and she’s reverting to the same stored emotion from when she was in her late 20s.

Her subconscious mind has associated safety with “working,” and her worth being tied to “doing”.

By helping her balance both sides when she was in her late 20’s, she was able to free herself from having to work to be “worthy.”

The truth is you are worthy no matter what!

If you want to have a successful, inspiring life, you need to know that you’re worthy of it now. And that your worth comes from the inside, not the other way around.

Let me say that again; you are worthy of your heart’s desires now.

Whether that’s taking time for yourself, enjoying, earning more, having a greater impact, or all of the above.

You are Worthy!

Once you can own that and start taking baby action steps, that’s when the magic happens.

For you in your journey:

Take a quick snapshot of your life. Where in your life are you currently feeling a little stuck?

Or where do you feel like you are getting opposite results?

Odds are you may have a subconscious block that’s holding you back.

I’d love to learn more about where you’re getting stuck. Leave a comment below.

For more information on identifying and releasing the limiting beliefs that are holding you back, check out my FREE video course: Unleash Your Greatness.

FREE VIDEO COURSE: Register HERE.

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Top Mistakes People Make When Transitioning Out Of Their “Steady Job”

Andrea Parker with brick background

 

One of the top mistakes new entrepreneurs make when transitioning from their “steady job” to going all-in with their business is that they put too much pressure on their business to support them financially.

When I first considered leaving my policing career to start my own business, my mentor Dr. Lise Janelle, instilled in me that it takes time to start a business and the importance of this principle. 

This is something I have passed down to my clients and that I think is worth highlighting.

On average, it takes between three to five years to establish a successful business.  

Depending on the industry, it can take more time or less, but it’s three to five years in most cases.

Like most things worth lasting, it takes time!

 It doesn’t happen overnight. 

Knowing that it takes time, the key is to plan your strategy accordingly. 

Having a financial strategy not only will take the pressure off you and your business to perform, but it will also allow you the freedom to build from a place of love and inspiration.

However, let’s say you decide to leave your “steady day-job” and expect your new business to support you financially. What often happens next is that you become “needy” and desperate for new clients.

I’m sure you can think of a time when someone was trying to sell you on something, and they came off as “needy.” 

No matter how badly you wanted it, if the salesperson came off as too desperate, or wanted it more than you wanted it for yourself, then it became a huge turn-off, and most likely a “No Thank You!” 

Rather than creating something from love and inspiration (like we talked about in the last blog), it quickly turns into fear and desperation, which are not attractive business qualities. 

A more loving and long-lasting approach is coming up with a financial plan to support you while growing your business.

Here are four ways that can help you lovingly transition into having a successful business:

  1. Have a partner who can help support you financially.
  2. Get a part-time job to cover your expenses.
  3. Have at least two years of savings (aim to have enough money so that if you weren’t to make any money in those two years, you would be ok).
  4. Stay in your current job and build your business on the side.


Choose which feels most in alignment for you.

It may even be a combination. 

The key is to remember that it takes time to start a business. 

The more you try to force it, the more you’ll get frustrated.

One of my key takeaways from transitioning from my policing career into my business is how important it is to have a coach or mentor in your corner. Or at the very least a blueprint or strategy that can help get you there faster.

Although it takes time to start a business, there are also things you can do to move forward with less resistance and greater ease. 

One way to do that is to find someone who has a track record of success and has already done what you want to do.

If you are looking for more guidance in moving your career or business forward faster, you can apply to work with me directly. 

There is also an opportunity for you to attend my upcoming Career Fulfillment Masterclass.

This workshop is for entrepreneurs, executives and professions looking to reach the next level of success in their lives. 

During the 1-Day virtual event, you will:

  • Gain more clarity on your top career goals and map out your long-term vision.
  • Gain more purpose, freedom and fulfilment in the work you do.
  • Create a blueprint with the next best steps and how you can move forward with love, inspiration and get to where you want to go faster.

To learn more about the Career Fulfillment Masterclass, CLICK HERE.

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Should You Leave Your Job?

Andrea Parker at desk with dog

 

I am often asked my thoughts around the “best” time to leave a steady job before transitioning fully into your business or career.

In most cases, this is what I would recommend:  

Until you can love it, do not leave it!

I’ll be honest… my answer may not always be a fan favourite, especially if you feel frustrated with your current role and are ready to get out of there. 

But the truth is if you cannot leave it from love, you are wise to wait until you can.

Here’s why…

There are two ways you can leave something. 

You can leave it from inspiration and love, or you can leave through desperation and fear. 

If you don’t take the time to balance out your charges to see both sides and have gratitude for what you are currently doing, you will likely just repeat the same patterns and lessons in your next role. 

As Dr. John Demartini teaches, what you do not love, you attract, create, or become.


Essentially, you’ll keep repeating the same lesson until you learn to “love” it and see the perfection in it. 

Here’s an example of what it looks like when you leave from desperation. 

A friend from a mastermind group was working a corporate job working for a Fortune 500 company. After being with the company for a few years, she began resenting it and wanted to leave to do something else. She felt like her boss didn’t appreciate her and was too controlling. 

Rather than doing her inner work to find the gratitude in her current role and leaving from love, she left out of desperation, which came in the form of resentment towards her boss and the company. 

She ended up taking a role in an upcoming business where she was drawn to the freedom to create and an easy-going boss. 

After a few weeks, after the job’s novelty wore off, she started experiencing similar feelings of resentment and became frustrated with her boss. 

This time it was because of the extra responsibility and lack of financial stability. Soon she started to miss the structure and the opportunities her other job had provided her. 

After a few months in her new role, the business experienced greater financial issues, and she was out of a job.

On the flip side, I have a client who transitioned from love by doing her inner work, and the outcome was very inspiring!

Whether it’s a career, relationship, house, etc. unless there is a safety concern, it is wise to take your time, learn to love what you are doing and then leave from inspiration.

See how it is serving. Learn as much as you can. And at the end of the day, if you still can’t love what you’re doing. Then leave it! 

Life’s too short to be doing something you hate. But at least you know that since you took the time to do your inner work, you’re choosing to leave because you want to (which is inspiring).

This process is crucial because it helps you increase your self-worth and confidence, which are key ingredients to success.

So once you know that you are leaving from love, what are the next steps in transitioning into your business or a new career?

Be sure to tune in next Thursday for my new blog, where I answer just that. 

In the meantime, if you are looking for more information on how to take your career and business to the next level, my Career Fulfillment Masterclass is coming up soon.

In this workshop, I personally walk you through my 3- step process that will help you:

  • Discover what’s most important to you and have a plan you can implement right away.
  • Experience new levels of inspiration, creativity, and gratitude in what you do.
  • Achieve new levels of career and business success.

The workshop is designed to help you have the clarity, tools, and strategy to move forward faster from inspiration and love!

CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE!

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Out What Now Podcast: What’s Holding You Back?

 

 

Out What Now Podcast Part 2:

A few weeks back on the Out What Now Podcast,  Megan and I talked a little about her journey as my client and the significant themes that often keep people stuck.

Megan also asked me what the major limiting beliefs that I have experienced on my journey were.

Here’s what I shared:

A common theme that I found on my inner journey and that of many of my LGBTQ2+ clients is this theme around subconsciously holding myself back because I rejected myself for being a lesbian when I was younger.

For example, the reason I went to see a coach years ago was because I was unhappy with my career.

On the outside, it looked like I was living a perfect life.

If you looked on the inside, though, I still felt like the life I had created wasn’t enough, and I was still searching for that missing piece but didn’t know what that was. I felt depleted, helpless, anxious, lost and frustrated within my career and thought I was wasting my life.

The truth is that the reason I was feeling stuck, lost and unfulfilled was because of subconscious beliefs and fears I had learned over time. Most of these blocks were actually tied to feeling unworthy of love from when I rejected myself when I was younger for being a lesbian.

It’s fascinating because there is NO WAY I would have been able to connect those dots consciously.

So what I found in my journey is that although I was happy being gay, subconsciously, I was still associating something ‘bad’  or ‘unsafe’ with it, and it was keeping me stuck.


The important thing to note here is that consciously I was confident with my sexuality.

At the time, I am happily married to my wife. I’m a founding board member for the first internal support network for LGBTQ2+ officers and allies. I had been featured in an LGBTQ documentary, I was hosting ‘Happy to be me’ workshops, etc. but subconsciously, there was still something keeping me stuck.

One way this showed up was when I went to take my business to the next level. I had tons of resistance around being ‘happy’ and ‘successful’ and sharing my message with the world. I felt like I was playing small, and I kept myself in the closet, so to speak in terms of fully living from my heart and being me.

This is important because “you won’t create what you want in life; you create what you believe.”

This is something that my mentor Lise Janelle taught me, and it stuck with me.

“You won’t create what you want in life. You create what you believe.”

And the truth is if you don’t believe that you’re worthy, because of (insert illusion here), then later in life, when you go to take your life, relationships, finances, career, etc. to the next level, subconsciously, you’ll hold yourself back.

Your conscious mind wants it, but subconsciously you are saying no, this isn’t safe, people aren’t going to like you anymore, you will be rejected, you aren’t worthy, etc.

The problem is most of the time; you have no idea what your beliefs are.

That is why having a tool and resources to help you release these limiting beliefs is game-changing and the key to success!

After seeing how much this has transformed my life and those around me, I have a huge desire to help others do the same.

I provide my clients with the tools and resources to help them identify and release the subconscious blocks that are keeping them stuck so that they can get out of their own way and live the life they are meant to.

For the full podcast, be sure to visit here