Is the fear of being seen holding you back from living a life that you are so in love with?
A common fear amongst driven, inspiring humans in pursuit of creating a life that they are so in love with is the subconscious fear attached to being visible.
The truth is it takes courage to live an amazing life.
It takes courage to take action.
And one essential action step in moving your business and dream forward is putting yourself out there and being seen by others.
This may include posting on social media, creating a podcast, hosting a workshop, reaching out to your network, sharing your dream with friends, asking for help etc.
Here’s the catch…
“You won’t create what you want in life; you create what you believe.” Lise Janelle
So you can say you want to be more visible, but if your subconscious mind isn’t on board, it’s going to keep you feeling stuck, unmotivated, and like you are procrastinating.
Why is this?
One of the key reasons many people fear putting themselves out is that they are unconsciously associated with getting in trouble when they were younger.
I’m sure you can think of a time in your childhood when you consciously tried to steer clear of the adults in your life because you knew it would be less hassle, and most likely, you’d have more freedom.
This is such a typical story that many people unknowingly adopt when they are younger.
Rather than being seen, they learn to adapt to their environment and blend in. It’s this blending-in that kept them safe and, in many cases, made their life a lot easier.
For instance, I remember when I was growing up, I hated reading out loud. I dreaded this!
Each time the teacher would look around the class to call on someone, I would play this little game to pretend to be busy doing something else.
I would look down (avoiding eye-contact was my go-to, lol).
I would pretend to tie my shoe, fumble through my deck, pretty much anything to prevent me from being seen. I wanted nothing more than for the teacher to pass by me.
My subconscious mind associated pain with reading out loud and pleasure and safety with being invisible.
So although this pattern may have served me in the past, now that I am moving my business forward and have a strong desire to share my mission and message with others, it’s no longer helping me.
In fact, it’s doing the opposite! It was holding me back.
So how do you know you have a fear holding you back from being visible or seen?
Here are three clues:
- You know what you need to be doing, but you aren’t doing it.
- You know what you need to be doing, and you’re doing it, but it’s a struggle and feels like drudgery.
- You know what you need to be doing, and you are doing it, but you’re getting opposite results.
This can also look procrastination, staying busy with meaningless tasks, avoidance, self-sabotage, etc.
If you are a coach, professional, entrepreneur, or solopreneur and want to create a life that you are so in love with, one of the best things you can do is link being seen and visible with pleasure!
Not only will this help you bypass the subconscious fear, but it will also help you to move your life forward with more ease, flow, joy and fun!!
So how exactly do you do that?
Here is a quick, efficient and effective exercise to try…
On a piece of paper (or online document- there is a power that comes from physically writing it out, though), list 20 (or more) benefits to you and others that you are visible and seen.
For example, what are 20 benefits to you posting on social media, hosting your webinar, reaching out to your network etc.?
Perhaps it helps you spread your message.
Allows you to do your inner work to release fears that are holding you back.
It inspires your friends and family.
The more people you serve, the more money you earn.
The more money you earn, the more freedom you have in your lifestyle, etc.
Next, write down the drawbacks to yourself and others that you hold yourself back from being visible and seen. If you listed 20 benefits, list the same number of drawbacks.
The more you can associate pleasure and benefits to you being seen and visible, the more you’ll be able to do it with confidence, certainty, and inspiration.
The truth is you are meant to shine!