Andrea Parker at table

I’ve Been There… Story of My Transformation!

I’ve Been There… Story of My Transformation!

Andrea Parker at table

Hi, I’m Andrea Parker. I am a spiritual transformational coach, seminar leader and speaker. My mission is to empower and inspire you to connect with your heart so you can have full and complete happiness from within and love being you!!! It’s in doing this that you are able to take your life and happiness to the next level and live your soul’s purpose. It’s kind of crazy because I spent most of my life doing the exact opposite. Looking back now, I thought I was living from my heart but I was the furthest thing from it.

When I was 8 years old I remember standing in my upstairs bathroom feeling this sinking feeling in my stomach. It was the “oh shit” moment when I realized that I was a lesbian. I didn’t really know what that meant at the time, but I remember feeling like it was not a good thing and that I wanted nothing more than to be someone else. I was so scared of being different from others and being rejected for who I was that I didn’t even want to acknowledge it or even allow myself to go far enough to explore what being a lesbian meant. I just knew I didn’t want to be different from my sisters, cousins, and friends. That feeling was too much for me to accept. I felt completely overwhelmed and hopeless, which was a complete 180 from how I felt before I stepped into that bathroom 30 seconds earlier. It was a moment that literally changed my life forever. That is one of the first memories I have of when I consciously chose to disconnect from my heart. I decided in that moment it wasn’t safe to be me and that if I hid this from everyone I would be way better off.

Not to brag, but over the years I became quite the expert in lying to myself and others. I became so good at it that I spent six years in a relationship with a girl in which we were “just friends”. Looking back on this relationship now, it was the definition of being “complicated”. I knew in my heart that I was gay and wanted to be in a relationship with her but at the same time I was terrified of coming out. Neither one of us identified as being lesbian and we convinced each other that we were straight. Even though we were clearly together, we weren’t out to ANYONE (not even to ourselves) and often dated guys here and there.

Fast forward 6 year later at the age of 24 I finally admitted to myself that I wanted to be in an open relationship with her. It was then that she told me she wanted to have a husband and family and she tried to convince me to do the same. Even though I wasn’t happy, I was terrified not to be with her, mainly due to the feeling of having to decide whether I wanted to move forward embracing my sexuality or continue hiding it. It felt like my world was crashing down around me.

Andrea Parker in Kitchen

After we broke up I went to a counsellor and for the first time I told someone how I felt and that I thought I might be gay. This counsellor told me that this revelation was silly and that I wasn’t gay. She spent the next 45 minutes trying to convince me that I would be happier with a man. At first I was pissed that she said that. How dare she tell me that! Who was she to say I wasn’t gay? And what was so bad about being gay anyways? It made no sense to me. Why couldn’t I be me? I should be me!!! I WANT TO BE ME!! But then it dawned on me – I had been doing the same thing for years! Her piece of advice was the huge kick in the ass I needed for me to start listening to my heart. Once I heard how silly it sounded (out loud) I started to embrace who I truly was. I thanked her for helping me and walked out of there (for the first and last time) happily accepting who I was. It was the first time since I was 8 years old that I admitted to myself that I was a lesbian. But this time it was different because I knew it was ok. I was actually pumped about it and although it was scary leaning into this feeling, I knew it would be even scarier to go on pretending to be someone I was not.

That next year was one of the most liberating and transformational years of my life!! I took time for myself. I nurtured myself and learned to love myself for who I was. I even slowly started to come out to family and friends (well technically I told my mom knowing she can’t keep a secret and she told the rest of my family for me. Ha!) The following year I met my beautiful wife who I have been with now for nearly a decade. I did a ton of personal development work and the more I did this the more connected I was to my heart and happiness.

However with that said, it took me another 8 years and ALOT of life lessons to learn the importance of truly loving and accepting myself for who I was. I felt like I had mastered being happy being gay but was still searching for happiness in other areas of my life. On the outside it looked like I was living a perfect life. I had a beautiful wife, amazing friends and family, a stunning fully renovated home, income properties, a successful desirable career earning over six figures a year, good health, and so on and so on. If you looked on the inside though, I still felt like the life I had created wasn’t enough and I was still searching for that missing piece but didn’t know what that was.

I felt depleted, helpless, anxious, lost and frustrated within my career and felt I was wasting my life and not living my true purpose. Over those years of perceived success, I ended up developing illnesses, such as adrenal fatigue, exercise anaphylaxis and extreme food sensitives (I was allergic to pretty much anything delicious). I had spent much of my career trying to figure out how to escape it. I had spent countless hours and thousands and thousands of dollars on personal development books, courses, seminars and pretty much anything that I felt would help free me. I wanted nothing more than to quit my job and escape those five dreaded words – you are wasting your life.

Luckily I confided in a good friend about how I was feeling, and she got me in touch with Dr. Lise Janelle. Through working with Lise, I realized that true happiness comes from within and not the other way around. She was able to help me connect to my heart, and remove subconscious blocks, old patterns and limiting beliefs which helped transform my life fully and completely. For the first time I felt immense gratitude for my career and all of the opportunities that it had provided me. I felt so much weight lifted off my heart. The truth was, was that I wasn’t wasting my life and was right where I needed to be. I learned that there were no mistakes in life, just lessons, and that being a in my career had brought me to a place of peace, confidence and inner strength. Over the next several months, I poured love into my role. I created amazing, supportive relationships with colleagues and ended up getting a big promotion. I am now on the Board of Directors of our first Internal Support Network for LGBTQ employee’s and allies. My anxiety had literally melted away and I felt at peace and so heart centered. I also experienced a massive transformation with my health. I no longer felt depleted and exhausted, but more fulfilled, which left me feeling energized, and inspired!

Andrea Parker Yoga Pose Warrior One

This method has helped me transform my relationships with my family and friends, allowing for more gratitude towards situations that would usually create anxiety and turmoil.

My wife and I have also used this inner work to transform our lives in ways we never would have thought possible. Our finances have more than doubled in the past 12 months, we are launching an international coaching business together, and we both have more time and freedom to focus on keeping our relationship healthy and strong. Our lives are healthier, more meaningful and purposeful and we look within ourselves for happiness.

One of my biggest takeaways from doing my inner work is how important it is to have a tool and resources to help you fully connect to your heart. After seeing how much this has transformed my life and those around me, I have a huge desire to help others do the same.

Through my training and certification with various coaches and mind/body techniques, I am able to provide my clients with the tools and resources to help them realize their own subconscious blocks so that they can connect with their heart and live their most fulfilled and successful life! Are you ready??
Keep an eye out because I am going to be sharing tons of GAME CHANGING info, tools and resources to help you take your life and happiness to the next level and allow you to live your most successful and fulfilled life☺

It’s time to start spending your time in a way that lights you up. I’m here to help you map out the steps & guild you along the way.

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