Understanding Your Money Story
If someone asked you, “what is money,” what would you say?
Would you say that money is energy?
That it’s a means to an end and creates stress in your life and relationships? That money is loving and is always there when you need it?
Would you say money is evil and that people who have it are greedy?
Whatever your definition of money is, at the end of the day, it is just a story.
Just like we have created stories regarding our relationships, health, and success, we have our own unique (conscious and subconscious) stories regarding money.
What is your money story?
How do you talk about money? What type of relationship do you have with it?
Odds are if you do not have the abundance of money that you desire, then your money story needs some tweaking and upgrading.
And just to clarify, when I say the ‘abundance of money that you desire,’ what I mean is the amount of money that is in alignment with your heart.
The truth is that every single person isn’t capable of energetically holding the same amount of money.
We all don’t require the same amount and we aren’t equipped to have the same amount. What is in alignment for me will be much different than what’s in alignment with you.
The key though is to know that everyone, including and especially you, deserves to have enough!
A common money story that I hear often is that ‘money doesn’t buy you happiness’ or ‘money won’t make you happy.’
Well of course money won’t make you happy, just like relationships, food and status won’t make you happy.
But if you are subconsciously holding yourself back from having more abundance and money because you have attached a story that people who have money aren’t happy, that’s not right either.
Another common story I hear is ‘you have to work hard for your money.’
Most of our stories are borrowed from our parents or other adults in our lives from when we were young. These are stories that have possibly even been passed down from generation to generation.
If we aren’t consciously aware of these and do the work required to release them, it’s very likely that you too could pass on your unhealthy money story.
Here are a few exercises you can do to see what your relationship is like with money. They are super powerful so I would recommend carving out some time to sit down and write these out.
1a. What I heard about money growing up:
- Money doesn’t grow on trees
- Can’t afford that
- You have to work hard for your money
2. What I believed about money:
- Good people can have more money.
- Passive income is a great way to build wealth
- Money is energy
3. My current (limiting) beliefs about money:
- The more money the more stress
- You can’t be successful in both love and money
- Have to choose between family and financial success
4. How this affects my life today:
- Holding myself back from earning and receiving more money because scared it will impact relationships with family and spouse
- Feel stressed that we are spending more than we are bringing in
If you want to take it a step further, ask yourself on a scale from 1-10 how you would rate your current finances?
(10 being AMAZING and 1 being non-existent.)
Then… What would have to happen for your finances to be a 10 out of 10?
If your finances are not where you would like them to be it’s because you have attached a ‘story’ and limiting belief with having more money.
Common limiting beliefs include I am not worthy and I am not good enough.
Think of lottery winners.
I’ve used this example before but it’s such a powerful example. The majority of lottery winners aren’t on the same vibration as the money and don’t feel worthy of having it so they subconsciously create ways to get rid of it.
This comes back to comfort level, beliefs, and self-worth.
You won’t receive the amount of money that you want. You will receive the amount that you believe you are worth.
Money, just like everything else is an energy and self-worth game.
Here are a few tips to increasing your self-worth and money story:
1. Create a powerful affirmation regarding Money.
“ I am so happy and grateful that I am earning ____ per year doing what I love.”
“ The more I earn the happier I am.”
“Wealth flows to me like an avalanche of abundance.”
2. Spend less than you earn.
This seems simple but many of us don’t do this.
It is loving to live within your means. 🙂
3. Save at least 10% of your income.
Set up an automatic payment so that you don’t have to worry about it. Set it and forget it:)
As your income increases, increase this as well!
Be grateful for what you do have. This is probably the most important one!!
5. Release your past limiting beliefs regarding money.
Feel free to reach out to me for help on this one. There are a number of mind-body techniques to release these.
You got this!!