If you have a desire to live an amazing, inspiring life, and you are waiting for the fear to go away for you to take the next steps, just know that you’ll be waiting forever.

The truth is, fear is a normal part of growing.

If you’re growing and living outside of your comfort zone, you will likely experience feelings of discomfort associated with fear.

Knowing that fear is a natural part of the growth process, instead of avoiding it or waiting for it to disappear, a wiser approach is to change your relationship with it.

The next time you feel nervous or scared to do something.

Whether it’s reaching out to new clients, speaking your truth in a relationship, saying no to someone, etc. Allow yourself to experience the fear, and take action anyway.

This is important because the more you avoid something or put it off, the more anxious and nervous you’ll feel.

Inaction creates more angst. It’s like a feedback mechanism calling for you to get into action.

Think back to a time you had a big event coming up.

Perhaps it was a big sports game, a theatrical performance or an important presentation.

Typically, leading up to the big event is where you likely experienced feeling the most nervous, anxious or uncomfortable.

Once you were in the game or activity, though, the nerves subsided, and you were probably more present and in the flow.

The fear didn’t go away until you actually did the thing that you were nervous about.

This is one reason why living an amazing life takes courage!

People who are doing inspiring things experience fear all the time.

The biggest difference between them and someone living an uninspired life is that they are willing to take action anyways!

The more action you take, the more accomplished you feel.

This feeling of accomplishment helps increase your confidence, self-esteem and your self-worth. It also allows you to be more resilient in the pursuit of new challenges.

It’s not about getting rid of fear. It’s about trusting in the process, taking a deep breath and doing it anyways.

The next time you approach something out of your comfort zone, just know that it’s normal to feel a little nervous or anxious.

Also know, that fear isn’t going to magically disappear until you actually take action steps towards that goal.

The more you take action, the more comfortable you become in doing it and the less fear you experience because it will no longer be outside of your comfort zone.

Ask yourself, where are you not taking action?

What actions are you avoiding?

What is one baby step you can take today to move that forward?

I am on a mission to help inspiring, driven, and fun souls to live a life that they are so in love with. Please share this information with anyone with who you think it may resonate.

 

 

Recently, I read an article that said most people’s top regret at the end of their life is that they wished they enjoyed more.

Essentially they wished that they had more fun and allowed themselves to just be.

This got me thinking… why wait to have fun and enjoy?

If you want to truly live a life that you’re in love with, a life that’s inspiring to you, the key is to enjoy it now; you don’t have to wait!

For instance, if you are a business owner and want more freedom, yet you feel tied to your computer 10 hours a day, how can you allow yourself to have more fun and freedom now?

Perhaps that means delegating the lower priority activities so that you can focus on doing what’s most inspiring to you.

Often in pursuit of living a life that you love, it is easy to become consumed in the day-to-day. Sometimes so much so that you lose focus on what is most important to you.

My invitation to you is to ask yourself, are you allowing yourself to enjoy?

Where are you taking life too seriously?

How can you have more fun today?

If it was 20 years from now, 30 years from now, 50 years from now and somebody were to ask you, did you enjoy your life?

What would you LOVE your answer to be?

Now reverse engineer it. How can you live it now?

If you already are, how can you have even more fun?

And if you aren’t, what are some of the things you can change?

For instance, do you want to…

Work fewer hours?
Be more present in the moment?
Have more gratitude for your life?
Have more balance?
Schedule more time off for vacation?

Or better yet, create a life that you don’t need to retire from? One that is so inspiring that it feels like a vacation!

It is doable! The key, though, is to start now.

Are you ready to enjoy and have more fun?

 

 

It fires me up when well-meaning people say you have to forgive yourself or someone else to move on.

This fires me up because this advice keeps you stuck in this perpetual loop of an unbalanced perception. It’s missing the bigger picture and keeps you stuck in judgment, blame and victimhood.

The truth is forgiveness is just an illusion.

The need to forgive somebody implies that there is only one side of the equation and that something only “bad” happened. Where in reality, there is always equal support and challenge.

For every challenge, there is equal and opposite blessings.

By only looking at one side, you miss out on seeing the true perfection in the situation. This balanced approach sets you free—knowing that what happened has served you and there are benefits to the situation.

The next time you go to “forgive” someone else or yourself, try this instead…

Look at both sides of the situation. Ask what the benefits of that situation, etc. are. How did this help guide you? How were you equally supported?

Perhaps it helped you speak your truth more. Stand up for yourself. Lead you to a new relationship. Maybe it allowed you to gain more clarity on what you truly want.

When you can see both sides, there is no need to ‘forgive’ someone or something because the situation in itself was perfect (both support and challenge). You can move forward from this place and no longer remain stuck in the illusion that there was more pain than pleasure.

From this place of love and gratitude, you are able to move forward and set yourself free.

That being said, seeing the perfection in the situation, especially with significant events and charges, can be extremely difficult to navigate on your own and takes some time to master.

This is one of my specialties. Through my 1:1 coaching and workshops, I help driven, inspiring and fun individuals do just that.

If you are looking for guidance and support on navigating your way through this so you can move forward much faster, reach out to me. We can schedule a clarity call.

On our call, I’ll help you create clarity on what your heart wants, identify what’s holding you back, and help you develop strategies to reach your goals much faster successfully.

Even if I’m not a fit to guide you, I will point you in the direction of some resources to help you get to the next level.

Click here to register for a Free 1 on 1 Clarity Call with me: https://andreaparkercoaching.as.me/clarity-call.

 

 

Are you looking to free up your mind and energy so that you can be more efficient and productive?

Let’s talk brain dump.

I started using this tool because I found that my mind would often become overwhelmed and bogged down with all the thoughts of my to-do list for the day, week, month, etc.

Instead of taking meaningful action, I found that I was losing energy and becoming distracted by how much I felt like I had to do and all the thoughts swirling around in my head.

In pursuit of freeing up energy and increasing my inspiration, motivation, and productivity, I started doing Brain Dumps, which I initially learned from Dr. John DeMartini’s work.

Here’s how it works…

Pull out a piece of paper.

Dump out ALL your thoughts onto the paper. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy. Jot down, list or write out everything you have been thinking about or that needs to be done, essentially anything that is taking up space in your mind.

Once you’ve emptied your thoughts onto the paper, next, review the list and see what on the list you can cross off and allow yourself to let go of.

Perhaps it’s thoughts or worries that you have no control over. Since there’s no sense in worrying about something that you can’t do anything about, you might as well cross that off your list and free it from your mind.

Next, after you eliminate the unnecessary stuff, see what on the list you can delegate.

Then, ask yourself what on the list is of the highest priority and urgency? And what on the list can wait?

I like to write a date beside these and schedule them into my calendar. That way, I know when I’ll get to them, and I don’t have to waste my time trying to remember them.

Lastly, focus on the highest priority action steps as they come up in your schedule. Then get into action!

I have been doing this exercise for a few months now, and I have recommended it to several clients.

The truth is when you are a business owner or looking to transition into being an entrepreneur; a million things are going on all at once.

This simple exercise allows you to free up your mind and energy so that you can be more efficient and effective.

I have found that not only are you able to cut down on the amount of time spinning your wheels in an endless loop of thoughts, it also allows you to stop wasting time on the wrong actions, which is priceless!

You can do it once a week. You can do it once a day. You can do it whenever you feel overwhelmed.

If this resonates, try it out and keep me posted on how it goes:)