Let’s chat more about the benefits of coming from a neutral loving place.
By experiencing the deep gratitude that comes from seeing the perfection in all that is, you can move forward, quicker, from a place of love and inspiration!
This is important because anything that you do not love rules your life.
I believe that in every event and life circumstance, there is always equal support and challenge.
It’s also wise to also choose to see that the same goes for humans.
All humans have ‘positive’ traits and ‘negative’ traits. They have, be and do things that you like and dislike.
From working with Dr. John Demartini, a Human Behavioural expert, I learned that we get stuck by putting people on a pedestal.
We put someone on a metaphorical pedestal anytime we judge a trait or action that we admire about them.
For instance, take a moment and think of someone who you admire and look up to.
You look up to them because there is something that they are doing or demonstrating that you perceive is great! Perhaps you respect that they are courageous, financially successful, have an inspiring lifestyle or are very confident in how they present themselves.
The interesting thing here, and this is how and why we get stuck. Is that when you put someone up on the pedestal, simultaneously, you put someone below you.
Let’s use finance as an example. If you admire someone who is financially wealthy, then simultaneously, you’ll resent the opposite of that.
Let’s do another quick example. Let’s say you are infatuated with more ‘freedom.’ With freedom comes constraint. So in your pursuit of freedom, you’ll be resenting anything that feels constricting, which may show up in your current business, schedule or finances.
The thing that you are putting on a pedestal is often the thing that is keeping you stuck and making you miserable because you resent its opposite.
As far as you swing one way, is as equal and opposite that you’ll swing in the other direction.
Infatuation is not sustainable. It always leads to resentment.
Once you know the rules of the game, though, you can use them to your advantage.
Knowing that infatuation can get you stuck, it is wiser to come from a more balanced, heart-centred place!
When you do this, you are more conscious of both sides! Not just to the side that you ‘want’ to see.
Your first relationship is an excellent example of this. Often when you are elated, you think this person is the end-all, be-all. Then eventually, the thing you liked the most about them drove you nuts, and you began to resent! OR worse, they disappeared or left you, and you resented yourself.
So how can you neutralize infatuation and come from a balanced place?
A great place to start is to look for both sides. What would be the drawbacks to yourself and others of the admired trait?
For example, what are the drawbacks to financial wealth? Perhaps, the admired person isn’t putting as much energy into their health or relationships. Maybe they aren’t spiritually awake or consciously aware. Do they attach their worth to money?
And for the trait, you are resenting, such as lack of abundance, what’s the benefit? Maybe it’s encouraging growth and creativity, etc.
The more you can see both sides, the less likely you’ll swing, and the more you’ll be able to love the situation so that you can create from your heart.
It is also important to know that if you can identify the trait in someone else, you also have it!
You stop putting them above you by owning the trait and seeing that you also possess the admired trait.
Same with the disliked traits. When you can see that you too possess this, you stop putting yourself above others.
As Dr. John Demartini teaches, it’s not about putting people on pedestals or pits; it’s about putting people in our hearts.
I love this because when you are in your heart, nothing is missing.
This is one reason I love knowing more about the laws of the Universe and how to play the game.
The rules of the game are, no matter what happens, there’s always equal support and challenge.
You might as well choose from your heart and go for your dreams!
When you do it from a balanced, neutral place, not only is it more loving, it’s a hell of a lot more fun.
If you’d love some help in your corner, seeing how good life can get from a balanced, heart-centred place, I’d love to chat more and see if we are a good fit for coaching together.
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