Which one are you? The Yin or the Yang?



I had a powerful conversation with a client this week about creating and living a life that you’re so in love with.

Simply speaking, it comes down to one thing, which is living from your heart.

A great representation of this is the Yin and the Yang.

The Yin, which is the female principle, is listening.

Your heart wants you to know two things.

First, it wants you to admit your dreams and aspirations.

Secondly, it wants you to know that you are worthy of these desires.

The Yang, which is the male principle, is all about getting into action.

To create a life that you are so in love with, you need both.

You need to admit to yourself what you truly desire, know you are worthy of it, and then be willing to take the action steps necessary to move this dream forward and make it happen.

The key is to do both!

A common theme that happens, though, is that people end up doing one or the other.

Sometimes you may be really good at listening.

Perhaps you are journaling, reading, learning, taking a bunch of courses, etc.

You know what your heart is calling you to do, but you feel stuck in the Yin phase, and you aren’t taking the necessary actions to move it forward.

On the flip side, there may be times when you are doing a great job doing, doing, doing; however, these action steps may not necessarily align with what is most meaningful to you and your heart.

A great example of this is often career.

Perhaps on paper, it looks like you are thriving and have it all together, but you still feel a yearning to be doing something more on the inside.

You desire more meaning, more purpose, more freedom, more impact, etc.

Whether you are stuck in the listening phase or the action side of things, both can feel frustrating and leave you feeling stuck.

The key is to do both!

So why might you not be doing both simultaneously?

One of the common reasons is that creating and living a life that you are so in love with can be scary!

That’s right, even though living from your heart is the safest place to live, it can still feel terrifying because your heart often calls you outside of your comfort zone.

In the past, your heart may have said something to you that you weren’t quite ready for, which you associated as being unsafe.

For instance, when I was eight years old, I remember walking into my parents’ bathroom and being hit with this realization of ‘oh crap,’ I’m gay.

I didn’t know what that meant at the time, but it felt terrifying. I didn’t want to be different than my family and friends, so I associated my heart’s desires with being unsafe.

I know now that this is one of the best things that has happened to me and that being gay is one of my superpowers.

You, too, may have experienced something similar when you were younger.

Likewise, the act of ‘doing, doing, doing’ may be keeping you safe because it’s distracting you from actually having to admit what you want and then give it to yourself.

Somehow you are benefitting from not doing both.

The actual transformation occurs when you simultaneously do both.

If you are interested in taking the next step in creating a life that you are so in love with, stayed tuned.

In the next few weeks, I am offering a series of workshops to help you do just that.

The first workshop of the series is all about being so in love with what you do.

Please email me if you’d like to receive more information on this workshop or the upcoming series.

I’m looking forward to sharing this journey with you and chatting soon 🙂