Can you think of a time where you were doing something that felt uninspiring?

Something that you dreaded or hated doing?

Whenever you had to do this particular activity, it left you feeling frustrated and wondering why you even have to do this.

When you are doing things you don’t enjoy doing just because you feel like you ‘have’ to do it, it lowers your vibration and takes energy away from what you would love to do.

The truth is, you know what it is that we love to do and what inspires you. However, what happens is that over time, your clarity becomes clouded with ideas that you adopted from the ‘outside’ world about what you think you should be doing. Or what you feel you need to be doing to be successful.

Feeling like you have to do something that you hate doing because it feels like the ‘only’ way you can be happy, free, abundant, etc., is not fun or inspiring!

It has the opposite effect and leads you to not wanting to do what you actually set out to do in the first place.

Take this common business example, for instance.

Let’s say you are an entrepreneur, and you are inspired to grow your online presence.

You love working with your clients and customers; however, you feel like you have to create a strong social media presence to reach more people. In this example, let’s say social media is not your jam, and you dislike pretty much everything to do with it.

The thought of investing more time, money, and energy on creating videos and developing an up-to-date social strategy does not appeal to you!

When you do anything social media related, you feel drained, irritated and not in the flow.

I’m just using social media as an example, but feel free to put yourself in the story. Perhaps it’s cooking and cleaning you dislike, or running errands, etc.

Anytime you do something you dread (especially if you are ungrateful when you do it), it decreases your energy, and you vibrate at a lower frequency.

Whether you are aware of it or not, you are continually broadcasting what you want and don’t want out into the Universe.

The more you can align your time, energy and effort with the things that you love and inspire you the most, the more you’ll increase your vibration and attract more of what you want.

There’s so much value in doing things that you’re inspired to do.

If you don’t love doing (insert activity here), learn to love it, delegate it, or leave it.

If there’s something that you’re continuing to do and hate doing it, it’s wise to find a way to love it; remember, love means both support and challenge.

If you can’t find a way to love it, then let it go.

Either stop doing it or delegate it to somebody else.

When you delegate to others, especially if they love doing whatever the task is, not only is it incredible to help them out, it’s also fun working with people who love doing what their area of expertise is. Inspiration is contagious!

So back to the first example. If it’s social media that you hate, and you have somebody who you can pass it off to, and they love doing it, that’s a win-win.

By delegating what you don’t love, you will increase your self-worth and energy.

It will also free up time for you to do what lights you up because it’s in these areas of doing what you love that you have the most significant impact.

People who do what they love are magnetic!

And because of this, they attract more incredible people and opportunities to them!

So how can you be more magnetic?

First, do a quick survey of your life and ask where you are spending time doing things you don’t love? Where is your energy being drained?

Check all eight areas of your life, including career, finance, social, physical, family, knowledge, environment, and spiritual.

Next, ask yourself, how can I love doing this?

One way to love it is to list how doing (insert activity) will help you achieve your highest goals.

Perhaps you can learn to love doing social media because it allows you to connect with more people and have a more significant impact.

Then ask can I eliminate this or delegate this?

If the answer is yes, get into action and make this happen!

If you properly delegate things out, it won’t cost you 🙂

Take it one baby step at a time.

Please comment below with what you are going to love, delegate or eliminate.

You got this!!

 

If you have ever set a New Year’s resolution, you’re likely already aware that, for the most part, they are not an effective way of achieving goals.

New Year’s resolutions don’t work for the same reason why most people don’t successfully achieve their goals at any time of the year.

One of the number one reasons for this is that people don’t set clear, inspiring goals.

First, you need to state your goal clearly.

Second, you need to make sure that your goal is actually meaningful and inspiring to you.

This is the step many people get hung up on, especially during the New Year.

What often happens is that during this time, people feel pressured to set a goal, and in doing so, they pick a superficial goal that has little meaning to them.

Rather than creating something that is truly in alignment with what they desire and that they are willing to put the action into achieving, many people get caught up in the idea of a fantasy-based goal that sounds good only on paper.

For instance, let’s use a health goal.

Let’s say you set a goal to work out a certain number of days per week in pursuit of a big audacious health goal that isn’t actually centred on what you truly want. When it comes to investing the time, money, energy and effort into moving that goal forward, you likely aren’t going to do it.

This can feel frustrating, and essentially you are setting yourself up for disappointment.

Which often leads to decreased self-worth, lack of confidence and trust in yourself and your abilities. It may also create an aversion to you not wanting to set future goals out of fear of failure.

I strongly believe in the power of having clear and inspiring goals and moving your dreams forward; the key, though, is to ground them in something meaningful and inspiring to you!

When you can come from that approach, it is way more fun, and the likelihood of you achieving them is substantially higher!

True success is living from the values of your heart.

This new year is all about going within and creating from this place.

Success is no longer about what happens on the outside. Instead, your worth and real success comes from living by that which is most important to you.

When you can create from that place, you will have a more likelihood of taking consistent action steps towards achieving your goals, which is a success!

You need to admit what it is you want and then get into action and make it happen.

It’s simple!

Not necessarily easy, though.

Odds are if you have been doing personal development or any type of inner work, you already have goals that are meaning and inspiring to you.

Rather than setting all new goals in the new year, another way to look at it is to ask yourself how you can revise and upgrade your current ones to be even more inspiring and in alignment with what you want.

The key is to keep tweaking and reevaluating your goals. They are evolving, and so are you.

If you’d like more information on creating meaningful and inspiring goals and how to successfully move them forward, be sure to continue to follow me on Instagram and LinkedIn, where I’ll be sharing more tips and advice.

I am grateful for you being on this journey with me.

My hope for you for 2021 is that you take the time to make yourself a priority and know that you are worthy of what it is you truly desire.

Remember, the key to true success is living from the values of your heart. Taking time to admit what it is you want, and taking action steps towards it will lead to you living your most fulfilled and successful life.

On that note, I wanted to share a few of my New Year rituals that help me align with my heart’s desires. Feel free to take what resonates and leave what doesn’t.

1. Gratitude. This one is key!

Ask yourself what you are grateful for.

What were some of your big or little wins?

How did what happened this year help you move towards living your dream?

How were these challenges on the way?

2. What is it that you would love to create or bring into your life in 2021?

How do you want to feel this year?

What is it that you would love to be doing, being or having?

The key is to create inspiring and meaningful goals that are linked to your highest values.

If you don’t know what your highest values are, be sure to check out my previous blog post. How do you know you aren’t living someone else’s values? Check out my last blog here.

Moving forward, it’s not about what is happening on the outside that’s important; it’s about what is happening on the inside that’s key.

The ‘new’ way is all about aligning with what your heart wants.

Having gratitude and appreciation is the best way to connect back to your heart. When you’re in your heart, nothing’s missing. It’s the safest place to live.

So my hope for you moving into 2021 is that you continue to follow your dreams and desires and that you do it from a place of love, inspiration, and fun!

I’m looking forward to sharing the new year with you.

Lots of love,

Andrea

 

When you choose in favour of your highest values, that’s when you feel most inspired, fulfilled and in alignment.

When you choose in favour of someone else’s values or unknowingly adopt someone else’s values, that is when life often feels draining, overwhelming and unfulfilling.

A clue that your living by someone else’s values is when you feel like you “should” or “have to” do something.

It’s what you ‘think’ you should be doing as opposed to what it is you would love to be doing.

This is important because it gets a lot of people stuck.

When you live outside of your values, not only does it take you out of your power, but it decreases your self-worth, confidence and negatively impacts the other areas of your life.

Let me give you an example.

One of my clients had been feeling guilty for not calling her family.

She loves her family, and she had been playing this tape in her head where she felt like she should be calling them more often and then would get down on herself for not doing it.

Feeling guilty took up time and energy in her head, and she wanted to let it go.

As we worked through it, she discovered that calling her family was a “should” and that the reason she wasn’t doing it is that it wasn’t her highest value.

Although she loves her family, connecting with them on the phone wasn’t on the top of her love list.

Talking on the phone wasn’t something that she loved doing at all. That wasn’t the way that she wanted to connect with others.

Along the way, she adopted it as a “should” because that’s how her family likes to keep in touch.

The truth is, what was meaningful and purposeful for her was having conversations and interacting together in person.

Through working together, she realized she hates small talk. That was such an ah-ha moment for her.

Once, she admitted that it’s not that she doesn’t love her family; it’s just that she hates small talk and that it didn’t matter who it was she didn’t want to pick up the phone; she felt like a weight had been lifted off her shoulders.

All this time, she thought something was wrong with her for not wanting to pick up the phone. The truth is nothing was wrong with her; she was just trying to force herself to do something that wasn’t actually in alignment with her heart.

It was pretty cool to see this shift in her. By realizing that she had adopted someone else’s highest values, most likely one of her family members, she was judging herself for not ‘wanting’ to do it and beating herself up because of it.

This is important because when you feel you should or have to do something, it most likely isn’t what you want to do.

So how do you navigate this?

Step one is to figure out your highest values and clarify what is most important to you.

This is crucial because you always choose in favour of your highest values. So the more clarity around this, the better.

If you have no idea what your highest values are, I recommend taking Dr. John Demartni’s  Values Test. This is something I get all of my clients to do and is free. You can do it for free at https://drdemartini.com/values/.

If you have already taken the test, I recommend revising it frequently. The more you do the test, the clearer you become.

Step two is focusing your time and energy on things you ‘love to’ instead of ‘having to.’

When a ‘should’ pops up, ask yourself where did I get this idea from that I ‘should’ be doing this?

The more you can admit to yourself what you truly want and live in alignment with your highest values, the more inspired and fulfilled you will be.

From this place, you’ll have a more significant impact and more loving relationships. It will increase your self-worth and boost your self-esteem.

The more you can live in alignment with your highest values, the more you can live an amazing life.

Take a few moments and fill out the test. Click here!

I would love to hear what your top values are. Please comment below your highest values or send me an email at [email protected].

Here are a few of my top values in no particular order: Spiritual Growth, Lifestyle, and Business.