Is the fear of being seen holding you back from living a life that you are so in love with?

A common fear amongst driven, inspiring humans in pursuit of creating a life that they are so in love with is the subconscious fear attached to being visible.

The truth is it takes courage to live an amazing life.

It takes courage to take action.

And one essential action step in moving your business and dream forward is putting yourself out there and being seen by others.

This may include posting on social media, creating a podcast, hosting a workshop, reaching out to your network, sharing your dream with friends, asking for help etc.

Here’s the catch…

“You won’t create what you want in life; you create what you believe.” Lise Janelle

So you can say you want to be more visible, but if your subconscious mind isn’t on board, it’s going to keep you feeling stuck, unmotivated, and like you are procrastinating.

Why is this?

One of the key reasons many people fear putting themselves out is that they are unconsciously associated with getting in trouble when they were younger.

I’m sure you can think of a time in your childhood when you consciously tried to steer clear of the adults in your life because you knew it would be less hassle, and most likely, you’d have more freedom.

This is such a typical story that many people unknowingly adopt when they are younger.

Rather than being seen, they learn to adapt to their environment and blend in. It’s this blending-in that kept them safe and, in many cases, made their life a lot easier.

For instance, I remember when I was growing up, I hated reading out loud. I dreaded this!

Each time the teacher would look around the class to call on someone, I would play this little game to pretend to be busy doing something else.

I would look down (avoiding eye-contact was my go-to, lol).

I would pretend to tie my shoe, fumble through my deck, pretty much anything to prevent me from being seen. I wanted nothing more than for the teacher to pass by me.

My subconscious mind associated pain with reading out loud and pleasure and safety with being invisible.

So although this pattern may have served me in the past, now that I am moving my business forward and have a strong desire to share my mission and message with others, it’s no longer helping me.

In fact, it’s doing the opposite! It was holding me back.

 

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So how do you know you have a fear holding you back from being visible or seen?

Here are three clues:

1. You know what you need to be doing, but you aren’t doing it. 
2. You know what you need to be doing, and you’re doing it, but it’s a struggle and feels like drudgery. 
3. You know what you need to be doing, and you are doing it, but you’re getting opposite results.

This can also look procrastination, staying busy with meaningless tasks, avoidance, self-sabotage, etc.

 

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If you are a coach, professional, entrepreneur, or solopreneur and want to create a life that you are so in love with, one of the best things you can do is link being seen and visible with pleasure!

Not only will this help you bypass the subconscious fear, but it will also help you to move your life forward with more ease, flow, joy and fun!!

So how exactly do you do that?

Here is a quick, efficient and effective exercise to try…

On a piece of paper (or online document- there is a power that comes from physically writing it out, though), list 20 (or more) benefits to you and others that you are visible and seen.

For example, what are 20 benefits to you posting on social media, hosting your webinar, reaching out to your network etc.?

Perhaps it helps you spread your message.
Allows you to do your inner work to release fears that are holding you back.
It inspires your friends and family.
The more people you serve, the more money you earn.
The more money you earn, the more freedom you have in your lifestyle, etc.

Next, write down the drawbacks to yourself and others that you hold yourself back from being visible and seen. If you listed 20 benefits, list the same number of drawbacks.

The more you can associate pleasure and benefits to you being seen and visible, the more you’ll be able to do it with confidence, certainty, and inspiration.

The truth is you are meant to shine!

 

 

If I handed you a cheque for 10 million dollars and you could do anything with that money, what would you do? This is one of my favourite questions to ask myself and others because it’s a quick and easy way to gain clarity.

 

And here’s why…

 

When you take time to ask yourself this question, you learn a lot about what you actually want and not what you think you “should” be doing. 

 

It is an accelerated way of honing in and gaining clarity on what truly matters to you.

 

This is huge because the more clarity you have, the more certainty you’ll feel, which will increase your confidence and self-worth, which are key ingredients to living a successful life.

 

Success isn’t about the car you drive or the career you have. Yes, those are important, but it’s not the definition of success we were fed when we were younger. “Get good grades, go to school and get a good job.”

 

Instead, real success is about living from the values of your heart. It’s about aligning your time and energy with that which is most important and meaningful to you. 

 

To do this, you need to be able to admit what it is you want and to be able to get into action to give it to yourself.

 

One of the first steps in doing this is gaining clarity.

 

So let me ask you this if I gave you $10 million today, what would you do with it?

 

Take a minute and play with this. 

 

What would you do with $10 million? 

 

Would you travel? 

Buy a lakefront home? 

Start a business? 

Retire from your current career?  

Hire a personal trainer?

Invest in multiple streams of passive income? 

Get a puppy (or two)? 

 

There’s no right or wrong answer. 

 

What is it that you would love to do with that money?

 

Once you admit what it is that you’d love to do. Ask yourself what you can do today to bring that dream into reality? Chunk it down into baby action steps and get into action!

 

If your current reality is not in alignment with what you’d love to be doing, it’s ok. The key is to start aligning your time and energy with that which is.

 

If you are looking to go deeper and learn more about how you can create a life you are so in love with, check out my upcoming workshop, Career Masterclass. 

 

In my workshop, I’ll help you gain more clarity and create a plan of action to live a life you love.

 

Click here for more information, https://andreaparkercoaching.com/career-fulfillment-masterclass/.

 

 

Have you ever thought about leaving your day job to pursue something that is more inspiring to you and that allows you to have the freedom to live life on your terms?

Many of the people I work with are professionals, such as lawyers, psychologists, teachers, holistic doctors, etc., who entered their field because they wanted to help other people.

What they found, though, is that they are now ready to leave and shift into doing something where they feel like they have the freedom to create the impact and change that they truly desire.

Whether you are looking to become a coach, solopreneur, entrepreneur, or create a business where you can work from anywhere, one key thing many people overlook when leaving their day job to live a life of freedom is their intention behind it.

If this is you, before you leave your job, ask yourself this…

Are you leaving from love and inspiration or are you leaving because you dislike (despise, hate, etc…) your current job?

Essentially there are two ways you can leave your job. You can leave from inspiration, or you can leave from fear.

I recommend you take the time and do the work necessary to leave it from inspiration. This will save you time, money and a lot of life lessons down the road.

The truth is, anything you do not love, you just keep attracting over and over again until you learn to love it. 

It’s the Universe’s way of helping you learn that lesson. If you don’t love what you are doing, and you don’t see the perfection in it, you’ll just recreate the same lessons, the same emotions and the same challenges in your next vocation.

This is why I recommend taking the time to dissolve the emotions and come from a neutral, loving perspective when you leave.

Most people know this but they don’t want to believe it.

To have a successful business, where you have people coming in steadily and have a good rhythm in your business, it takes approximately three to five years.

Knowing that it takes on average three to five years to create a sustainable and profitable business can help balance some of the fantasy that comes with leaving your career and starting your own business.

When you first decide that you want to leave your career, it can feel exciting knowing that you can create something where you have more freedom to grow your income, have a more significant impact, and live life on your terms.

The truth is having a business can and does allow for more freedom, AND it also requires a ton of work and asks you to step up and grow personally as well.

When you can see both sides and see the whole picture, it will help you be more grounded. 

There are tons of advantages to going out on your own. There are also advantages to what you are currently doing.

The key is to see both sides.

Ask yourself, how is what you’re doing currently actually helping you to be able to have the life and the freedom that you want later on?

By seeing the positives in your current job, you’re able to leave with more love; you’re able to leave from a place of “I choose to” leave as opposed to “I have to” leave.

This is powerful and will save you so much time and energy down the road because you won’t have to recreate the same feelings and emotions, and situations in your new career or new endeavour.

The purpose of this is to help you have a balanced perspective of leaving.

Many people get infatuated with leaving their career and having their own business because they hate what they are currently doing and see their new vocation as the answer to their freedom and happiness.

If you are only looking at it from one side and this unbalanced perception, you’ll end up swinging in your emotions and be on a rollercoaster ride. It will also end up in you resenting your business.

Instead, try this!

 

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Exercise A:

Ask yourself, what are the benefits of your current job/ career? Write out at least 25 benefits of working in your current role.

Ie. You have a steady paycheque. You don’t have to go out and look for clients, etc.

Keep writing until you can’t think of anything else. Check all the eight areas of your life, including spiritual, vocational, financial, social, physical, familial, mental, and environmental.

 

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Exercise B:

Ask yourself the drawbacks of being self-employed (insert business idea, coaching, stay-at-home business, etc.).

Write at least 25 drawbacks to you going out on your own. What are some of the disadvantages of being self-employed?  Think in terms of all the eight areas of your life. Aim to have the same number of drawbacks as you did benefits.

 

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The truth is being self-employed, and having a job that gives you a steady paycheck every week, are two different ballgames.

By neutralizing some of those charges and seeing the reality of what is, it will help you have more love for the process and move forward much faster.

As you navigate this, just know that pursuing your dream and taking the next step in living a life of freedom can be scary! It is common to experience both conscious and subconscious fears when you play bigger.

What if I make a mistake?
What if I’m not safe?
What if I lose my security?
What if I fail?
Etc. Etc.

When playing bigger, it’s essential to have tools and resources to help you navigate the limiting beliefs.

If you are serious about moving your dream forward and living a life of freedom, reach out to me to schedule a free clarity call: https://andreaparkercoaching.as.me/clarity-call.

 

One of the top mistakes new entrepreneurs make when transitioning from their “steady job” to going all-in with their business is that they put too much pressure on their business to support them financially.

When I first considered leaving my policing career to start my own business, my mentor Dr. Lise Janelle, instilled in me that it takes time to start a business and the importance of this principle. 

This is something I have passed down to my clients and that I think is worth highlighting.

On average, it takes between three to five years to establish a successful business.  

Depending on the industry, it can take more time or less, but it’s three to five years in most cases.

Like most things worth lasting, it takes time!

 It doesn’t happen overnight. 

Knowing that it takes time, the key is to plan your strategy accordingly. 

Having a financial strategy not only will take the pressure off you and your business to perform, but it will also allow you the freedom to build from a place of love and inspiration.

However, let’s say you decide to leave your “steady day-job” and expect your new business to support you financially. What often happens next is that you become “needy” and desperate for new clients.

I’m sure you can think of a time when someone was trying to sell you on something, and they came off as “needy.” 

No matter how badly you wanted it, if the salesperson came off as too desperate, or wanted it more than you wanted it for yourself, then it became a huge turn-off, and most likely a “No Thank You!” 

Rather than creating something from love and inspiration (like we talked about in the last blog), it quickly turns into fear and desperation, which are not attractive business qualities. 

A more loving and long-lasting approach is coming up with a financial plan to support you while growing your business.

Here are four ways that can help you lovingly transition into having a successful business:

1. Have a partner who can help support you financially.
2. Get a part-time job to cover your expenses.
3. Have at least two years of savings (aim to have enough money so that if you weren’t to make any money in those two years, you would be ok).
4. Stay in your current job and build your business on the side.

Choose which feels most in alignment for you.

It may even be a combination. 

The key is to remember that it takes time to start a business. 

The more you try to force it, the more you’ll get frustrated.

One of my key takeaways from transitioning from my policing career into my business is how important it is to have a coach or mentor in your corner. Or at the very least a blueprint or strategy that can help get you there faster.

Although it takes time to start a business, there are also things you can do to move forward with less resistance and greater ease. 

One way to do that is to find someone who has a track record of success and has already done what you want to do.

If you are looking for more guidance in moving your career or business forward faster, you can apply to work with me directly. 

There is also an opportunity for you to attend my upcoming Career Fulfillment Masterclass.

This workshop is for entrepreneurs, executives and professions looking to reach the next level of success in their lives. 

During the 1-Day virtual event, you will:

• Gain more clarity on your top career goals and map out your long-term vision.
• Gain more purpose, freedom and fulfilment in the work you do.
• Create a blueprint with the next best steps and how you can move forward with love, inspiration and get to where you want to go faster.

To learn more about the Career Fulfillment Masterclass, CLICK HERE.