Andrea Parker and Mel

One Of The Biggest Mistakes In A Relationship

 

 

One of my highest values is to live a life that I am So in love with and help other fun, inspiring and driven individuals do the same.

For many of my clients and me, a big piece of creating a life that you love is also sharing it with someone you love.

I’m really excited to team up with my partner Mel and co-create to help others have more consciously loving relationships.

You don’t have to settle for a good relationship; you are worthy and deserving of having an extraordinary relationship.

We intend to provide you with more tools and resources so you can have that loving relationship, both with yourself and others.

Mel put me in the hot seat for today’s blog and asked this…

“How can you tell if you are in love with the person, or you’re just in like with the person?”

This is such a great question and one that we have been getting asked a lot lately.

This can be related to relationships and also with business or other areas of your life.

Love is different than like.

When you love someone, you’re willing to embrace both sides. Both the ‘positives’ and the ‘negatives.’

Confusing love with infatuation is one of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships. This is something I learned from my mentor Dr. Lise Janelle and through doing my Heart Freedom Certification.

Love is both support and challenge (seeing both simultaneously), whereas like is only choosing to see one side of a person.

Often, we expect our partner only to support us or be nice to us and only do what we want them to do.

The reason for this is that when you’re younger, you expect your parents or guardians just to give you everything that you want, and you’re not responsible for giving it to yourself.

This becomes an unconscious expectation.

When you get what you want, you feel like you are loved. When you don’t, you feel like what’s wrong with me. These are old patterns and beliefs that are based on an ‘unconscious’ relationship.

The ideal type of relationship is a consciously loving relationship. This is more loving.

When you’re in a consciously loving relationship, you know that there will be both support and challenge, good and bad. You are willing to both support and challenge your partner and vice versa.

In my opinion, the best way to know that it’s a loving relationship, as opposed to “like,” is that you are willing to see both sides of that person, and you’re willing to love them unconditionally for all of who they are.

For example, if you have children or a pet, it’s easy to see that it’s not all positive, all the time. There is both support and challenge in the relationship.

If it’s pouring rain and freezing outside, odds are you don’t like walking your dog, but you do it because you love them.

The same thing is true with a consciously loving relationship. When you love someone, you are willing to embrace both sides: the ups and downs, the good and the bad.

If you are looking for your partner to be this perfect person and only one-sided, that’s unattainable.

Likewise, if you are looking for yourself to only be one-sided in a relationship, that is also an unwinnable game.

You have to willing to see both sides of your partner AND show up fully as yourself.

When you do this, it will allow for more love to come into your life.

If you are looking to elevate your relationship and have an even more consciously loving relationship, join Mel and me for our Love Mastery 1-Day Workshop.

You will learn how to be a more consciously loving partner and how to co-create from a place of love and inspiration.

Click here for more info… https://andreaparkercoaching.com/love-mastery

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