Raise your hand if you desire to have more fun, experience more joy, and allow yourself to relax more or have more balance.

Raise your hand if you sometimes suck at relaxing, often struggle with slowing down or sometimes find it hard to be present and enjoy the process.

If you are a fun, inspiring, driven individual, odds are most of your life you were actually programmed to do the opposite of having fun and enjoying.

Many driven people felt like they had to push, work hard, be busy doing all the time, and it often didn’t feel safe for them to relax or trust the process.

This old way of doing things where it can feel like you had to grind it out and hustle your way through things may have served a purpose in the past, but the reality is it no longer does.

I have a feeling you are ready for a more fun way and have been playing around with different ways to bring more lightheartedness and inspiration into your life.

The problem is that when trying this new way of enjoying and living, often, the ‘old’ less inspiring way creeps up and leaves you feeling guilty or facing resistance.

In Stage One of Human Development, which is like “Bootcamp,” it served you to be driven from those fear or society-based mechanisms. Not only did working hard and having to push through allow you to have a track record of success and likely contributed to your outer accomplishments, but it also helped shape your personality.

But now that you’re waking up to living in Stage Two of Human Development, which is where you’re able to create and live a life that you are so in love with, you no longer have to hold on to the old ways of being.

This new way is all about choosing from love and inspiration over fear and desperation.

You no longer have to feel guilty for relaxing or like you won’t continue to grow if you are slowing down and enjoying.

In fact, in order to continue to expand and elevate your life, it’s important to switch out the old beliefs that no longer serve you and rewire them with ones that are more in alignment with where you are growing.

It is safe to trust. It’s wise to enjoy, and it’s all part of the process to have fun!

A great place to start is identifying where you have some resistance.

If you feel guilty or not enough when you go to sit down and relax, that is a sign that you have an old story ruling you (which is not the truth).

It is also essential to know that it takes effort to live out these limiting beliefs, so you might as well challenge yourself to reprogram them and change them. A great place to start is owning that your worth comes from within. Not the other way around.

Being more loving of yourself and treating yourself like your own best friend is an excellent step towards owning your worth.

The second thing that you may find helpful when allowing yourself to enjoy more is to find activities or something that you find to be fun or relaxing. This may not be sitting in front of the tv for 5 hours like others. This could look like you reading, doing yoga or going for a walk.

This may require that you take some time to re-imagined what fun and relaxing can look like for you?

Discipline yourself to give yourself what it wants. You are worth it!

On a scale of 1-10, how good are you at relaxing?

 

 

Have you ever felt like you didn’t have enough time or energy to do the things you love?

This is super common!

I received a client update (as part of their homework and accountability plan) and wanted to share their ah-ha insight with you because I believe it will help you.

Although my client was doing well, they felt stressed out, overwhelmed, and like they didn’t have time to put into their health, relationships, and fun.

Through doing their inner work, they realized that they were feeling stressed, low energy, drained and like they didn’t have time for doing the things that they loved because, deep down, they felt guilty for being successful and thriving.

This is huge! This is also a common limiting belief that gets many driven people stuck!

There are two big fears—the fear of success and the fear of failure.

The truth is, the fear of success and thriving gets people just as stuck as the fear of making a mistake or failing.

For this client, they had been doing really well in their career. They were performing at the top of their company, they had experienced more success this past year than they had in the past four years, and they were enjoying what they were doing.

Consciously, they love it!

Subconsciously though, they felt incongruent and felt unworthy of thriving and their business success.

Remember, “you won’t create what you want in life; you create what you believe.” Dr. Lise Janelle.

Consciously they wanted to have this success and thrive, however subconsciously, they didn’t believe they were worthy of it.

This is powerful because if your subconscious mind isn’t on board because it doesn’t feel safe, it won’t allow it to happen.

My client didn’t believe they were worthy or that they were enough, so they ended up unconsciously creating stressors in their life to help them feel enough or feel like they earned it.

Some ways this showed up were through overexerting themselves, overcompensating, stressing themselves out unnecessarily by creating scenarios where their energy was being drained and depleted.

My client was reacting based on past behaviours and beliefs that were created in Stage 1 of Human Development. Rather than consciously creating the life they love, they were being ruled by stories they created when they were younger, rooted in the illusion that they were not enough.

This is important because anytime you are playing outside of your comfort zone, this can bring up fears and limiting beliefs. It is wise to pay attention to these and consciously release them so that they no longer rule you.

My client was able to identify that the reason they weren’t enjoying their life and success was because of an old story. The beauty part of that is that in the next session, we released this story, and since then, they were able to move forward and enjoy their success and the other areas of their life.

Feeling unworthy or not enough, is just an old story. You created it and you can release it! You don’t have to stay stuck.

In this Stage 1, you are taught the illusion that your worth comes from the outside, that success comes from the outside, and that fulfillment comes from the outside. Although this is helpful because it helped drive you and shape your personality while you were not awake, at a certain point you need to let this go if you want to move forward with your dreams.

Stage 1 is Bootcamp.
Stage 2 is where the magic happens!

Stage 2 is where you are conscious and awake. This is the ideal place to live from. This is where you experience TRUE SUCCESS!

In this Stage, you learn that your worth comes from within. That success comes from within, and that fulfillment comes from within.

In order to do this, you need to admit what you want, know that you are worthy of it and get into action to make it happen.

It’s simple, but not easy.

A big reason for that is fear!

Just a reminder, the three clues that you have a subconscious block holding you back are:

1. You know what you want to be doing, but you aren’t doing it. 
2. You know what you want and are doing it, but you are experiencing resistance.
3. You are doing it but getting opposite results.

Having fear pop up is a normal part of playing outside of your comfort zone and creating an inspiring life.

The quicker you can identify what is holding you back and be able to connect back to your heart and see the big picture, the faster you will be able to move forward.

I’m proud of my client for taking the time to check in and admit that they had a block holding them back.

The truth is in pursuit of achieving your goals, you will often feel unworthy, not enough, not good enough, unloved, like an imposter, not smart, incapable, like a fraud etc.

These are just stories.

Are you ready to let go of your limiting stories and rewire them to be more loving and supportive of your goals?

What stories are holding you back from living the life that you want?

Start paying attention to where your energy is feeling drained in your life, where you aren’t taking action to do what you would love, where you are experiencing resistance or getting the opposite results.

Those are all clues that you have some inner resistance and may need some help to move forward.

If you are ready to explore this more, be sure to check out my FREE So In Love With Your Life Session. This is a FREE session where I will help you identify what is holding you back from creating and doing what you would love and developing a strategy to move you forward faster.

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